TWO WOLVES – A CHEROKEE LEGEND
A grandfather from the Cherokee nation was talking with his grandson.
“A fight is going on inside of me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.”
“One wolf is evil and ugly: (I call this the Dark Wolf). He is anger, envy, war, greed, selfishness and arrogance.”
“The other wolf is beautiful and good: (I call this the White Wolf). He is friendly, joyful, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, justice, fairness, empathy, generosity, true, compassion, gratitude, and deep VISION.”
“This same fight is going on inside you and inside every other human as well.”
The grandson paused in deep reflection because of what his grandfather had just said. Then he finally cried out, “Oyee! Grandfather, which wolf will win?”
The grandfather replied, “The wolf that you feed.”
This is a nice sentiment, and I get what the grandfather is saying. But I’m not fond of the reference to this “terrible fight” that is going on inside of us.
In Robin Birch’s recent post on her blog Let’s Live Forever!, she writes,
“I like to think that when more people reach for the light, in any of a myriad of ways, and this becomes commonplace, a shift will occur in our mass consciousness.”
I support this idea wholeheartedly. Reaching for the light or the positive side of life is not about running from or fighting the dark. I don’t believe it has to be a struggle.
I admit to having dark thoughts and to resisting them. These thoughts are the work of my inner critic and fighting them exhausts me. But nevertheless they exist.
I enjoy believing that the dark is simply a shadow cast by the light. Anything that gets in the way of sunshine, casts a shadow. And although our shadows follow us, they are not real. They exist because we do. We cast those shadows ourselves.
In a recent post I wrote “If we fear our darkest thoughts they will continue to run our lives.”
Fighting a dark thought will feed it. Noticing a dark thought doesn’t feed it. In fact, by taking the time to see it and perhaps shed some light on it, an understanding can be reached. Understanding it means getting to know it; no longer having to fear the unknown. There is no duality here, and no fight. Vision is empowered and clarity moves us forward.
How do you handle your dark side?
Do you catch yourself believing what your inner critic tells you?
The next time your inner critic casts a shadow across your path what will you tell it?
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September 13, 2008 at 6:28 am
Robin
Hi Davina – from the title of this post to the end of it – it’s great. And I’m blown away that you used my little paragraph in there. (And I felt like you did about the
legend – I think there can be too much regard for teachings that belong to another age – although they are open to interpretation, of course).
I dunno what to do with my dark side – eat more and drink more wine, so I don’t notice it? hehe (that’s what I’ve been doing lately). I do try to accept all parts of myself, and I’m not nearly as critical of myself as I used to be.
See you!
September 13, 2008 at 9:31 am
Evelyn Lim
A dark thought requires examining to unravel its mystery. Pushing it aside or burying it hardly solves the problem. It lurks around. Beware!
It is best to bring it out into the open for understanding and greater awareness of its true nature. I find that it helps if I discuss it over with someone who can help me see the light.
September 13, 2008 at 5:01 pm
Cath Lawson
Hi Davina – this is a brilliant story. The emotions we feed most are definitely the ones that dominate us.
September 14, 2008 at 10:03 am
Lance
I like this comparision Davina. In fact, it reminds me of when my oldest son was just a couple of years old. He had this beat up old stuffed bunny that he carried everywhere. And he called it “White Wolf” (yes, it was a bunny). Maybe he was bringing out the beautiful and good even when he was so young!
I think examination of why is a good thing. Why are we have these thoughts that are “dark”? Is there something underlying? I think that in understanding we learn who we are. And that leads to the light of peace, love, and hope.
September 14, 2008 at 7:21 pm
Akemi "spiritual entrepreneur" @ Yes to Me
Hi Davina,
I totally agree with you. When we give our energy to the darkness, it grows. When, on the other hand, we turn on the light, the darkness simply disappears.
BTW do you have to divide your post to two pages? There are probably visitors who think the first page is all there is. Just a suggestion to improve your wonderful blog ^_^
September 15, 2008 at 4:13 am
veredd
I really like your point of view. I do FIGHT the dark side and it’s very possible that by fighting it, I am in fact feeding it.
I will have to give it some more thought. Thank you for raising this!
September 15, 2008 at 5:54 am
Barbara Swafford
Hi Davina,
I love that quote about who will win, “The wolf that you feed”. That’s so true. Whatever we think about breeds more of the same. All the more reason to think positively, and like you said, shed some light on that which haunts us.
September 15, 2008 at 2:54 pm
Urban Panther
There is no dark without light and no light without dark. We need both. We need birth and death, day and night, Summer and Winter. In the same token we need light thoughts and dark thoughts. There always has to be comparison and juxtaposition in order for learning and growth to occur. Wow! And all the philosophy coming from a brain completely fogged up with a head cold. Not bad if I do say so myself *grin*
September 16, 2008 at 10:11 pm
Tom Volkar / Delightful Work
Panther that was very well said.
I understand resistance and I have to watch fighting things that I don’t want more of. However sometimes it pays off big time to simply be pissed and to get into that “good mad” kind of determination.
September 17, 2008 at 11:06 pm
Leanne Magraith
Hi Davina
For me, dark thoughts have their place, because they can provide a sense of balance and reason. For this reason I don’t like to ignore them. Once I have squeezed all of the good stuff out of a dark thought I then like to discard it – as it no longer serves me any purpose.
September 18, 2008 at 8:51 pm
Harmony
Hmmmm. Very Good.
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I will say that the dark side, as Leanne mentioned, is only a reflection…a only something for me to be aware of..not hide from. If the dark side presents itself, there is a reason. If I don’t deal with the reason, the darkness will continue to visit. So, I tend to welcome it, and make room for diversity inside myself. Then I ask, in meditation, what is the message. What do I need to know? I will say, that loving my dark side, and allowing, sure seems to enable those thoughts to leave me much quicker than when I tried overcoming them with HAPPY THOUGHTS.
Having said all this…I LIKE HAPPY THOUGHTS.
September 20, 2008 at 6:37 am
davinahaisell
Once again, THANKS to you all for visiting and commenting while I’ve been away on holidays. Much appreciated!
Hi Robin. You are welcome. I appreciated your post very much and enjoyed sharing the link to it. Maybe if you share some of that food and wine with your dark side you can both become friends?
Hi Evelyn. As uncomfortable as I know dark thoughts to be, I have to agree with you that examining them can help to unravel their mystery. I entertain the idea that they hold our greatest truth.
Hi Cath. Yes. And for some reason it seems more natural to feed the darker thoughts than the lighter ones. I’ve noticed that human beings tend to prepare for the worst or worry about the worst rather than to trust in a positive outcome. It seems we like to challenge ourselves, but don’t want to take the responsibility for it. That’s my take anyway.
Hi Lance. Being curious and examining ourselves keeps us moving forward that’s for sure. And I can’t think of a more curious person than a little one. That is so cute about the bunny. Kids are much less judgemental than we adults. Judging those dark thoughts keeps us attached to them.
Hi there Akemi. Glad to see you here. Thanks for your comment. I hadn’t realized that dividing my posts into two pages could be a hindrance. I like to give the reader a short sample of each article. By only showing a short introduction I am able to display ten current posts on the home page without the reader having to do too much scrolling. I will see what I can do about this. Perhaps I can include a short note to direct readers to page two if they want to read more.
Hi Vered. You are welcome! Yes, I believe that if we fight the dark side we are denying something. I can’t say I’m an expert on this, but this is what I believe. I’m still a student and have to admit that I don’t always pass each test
Hi Barbara. This reminds me of when I was a little girl and afraid of the dark. My mom would tell me that everything was the same as when the lights were on. If I was afraid, we’d just turn on the light and the darkness would go away. Sounds so simple eh?
Hi Urban Panther. I’m grinning with you. Well said! It’s about that pendulum swing. If there is no swing, there is no movement. I hope that head cold of yours is long gone by now!
Hi Tom. Boy do I understand getting pissed off! That is one challenge for sure… to not judge THAT experience; to allow yourself to feel it and let it go! If you have any words of widsom for me, please share
I have a love/hate relationship with anger.
Hi Leanne. It sounds like you have a really good relationship with yourself. I like that part you said about squeezing all the good stuff out of a dark thought”. Great!
Hi Harmony. As I was reading your comment I had a vision of a person trying to hide from the dark. Can you imagine that? Hiding in the dark? You just get swallowed up by it! I agree with you; I like happy thoughts too! And with a name like Harmony… well that goes without saying
September 23, 2008 at 7:56 am
Miguel de Luis
Hi Davinia,
Congrats for the NBOW
I would like to add that sometimes that black wolf gets a nice paint work. You can disguise your ego with charity, like the man who volunteers but because he needs being appreciated.
September 23, 2008 at 9:24 am
davinahaisell
Hi Miguel. Hey, thanks for stopping by. Ahhh, great analogy! Sounds a bit like that proverbial wolf in sheep’s clothing.