This is my foot, happily posing on a dock at Lakeside Campground in Sasquatch Provincial Park, in mid September.
I am one of the last people I know who puts my sandals away in the fall and one of the first to bring them out in the springtime. Going barefoot is my preference.
I enjoy shopping for shoes, but I’ve realized that it is more about dreaming of finding that perfect pair, rather than buying them.
Let me tell you, this is no easy accomplishment. Even more challenging is letting go of that favourite pair of shoes.
You know the ones. You’d hardly recognize them from that early honeymoon period when you shared blisters, walks in the rain and walks across sandy beaches.
Their wear and tear boasts miles travelled together with accumulated sentimental value. They are comfortable. They fit like a glove and in all actuality, they shine more than the newest shoes in your closet. You tend to reach for them before you reach for the newer ones.
Children change and grow out of their shoes quickly but as adults we can wear the same pair of shoes for years. Buying a new pair of shoes has always been a challenge for me.
I often find myself window shopping, dreaming about finding that next pair of perfect shoes and being frustrated by yet another unsuccessful shopping trip. But, I wonder if subconsciously I don’t really want to find that new pair of shoes?
I have friends who wear a variety of styles and colours, both new and old. What I’ve also noticed is that these friends are vibrant and enthusiastic and walk headfirst into change in their lives.
I don’t enjoy change. I like comfort and I like familiar. What is interesting is that I continue to explore and cultivate my own personal growth, forgetting that this inevitably brings change.
Change gives me blisters and so I prefer going barefoot.
To my credit, I enjoy memories and appreciating how far I’ve come.
In the movie The Wizard of Oz, the shoes that Dorothy wore and whose heels she clicked together while saying “There’s no place like home,” were brilliant, red sparkling shoes. They created magic.
So, all I have to do is focus on taking more steps into the future rather than dreaming about it. Maybe then I’ll have some successful shopping trips and be able to add some brilliant new pairs of shoes to my closet. And even better, maybe we can enjoy that honeymoon period without any blisters!
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September 20, 2008 at 11:19 am
Lance
Me, I like the shoes I’ve had forever. Just like the shirt I’ve had forever. It’s like an old friend, knowing me. For the shoe, it has formed to my foot. It’s always hard to give up that pair that feels just right…
September 20, 2008 at 2:33 pm
Evelyn Lim
I enjoyed the writing here thoroughly! More often than not, we prefer to stick to the familiar and the comfortable. We may even need to psyched ourselves for changes. Yes, changes may make us feel discomfort initially and we find ways to side-step them. More effective planning may be needed so that we can learn to adapt to the changes that are necessary.
Thanks once again for a brilliant piece of article!
September 20, 2008 at 4:22 pm
veredd
I agree with Evelyn: brilliant!
I often prefer the new and exciting to the old and familiar – in life and in shoes.
September 20, 2008 at 5:06 pm
spaceagesage
Barefoot is the only way to go! I would love to become wealthy enough or lucky enough to live in a tropical environment where short-leaves, shorts and bare feet are the norm. And yes, I’m willing to have some discomfort now to make that happen in a more comfortable future.
September 21, 2008 at 4:16 am
Robin
Great to see you’re back, Davina!
I really admire people who walk barefoot – it is so physical and grounded. My feet aren’t tough/whatever enough to do it more than around the house. It would be my DREAM to happily walk around outside barefoot!
Lovely writing – thanks!
September 21, 2008 at 4:56 am
Linda Abbit
I’m like Robin, not really an outdoor barefoot girl. Even inside, I prefer comfy slippers or sandals over completely bare feet.
I have some favorite old shoes I really should throw out, but I don’t . . . .
The most disappointing shoes are the ones that feel comfortable when you try them on in the store and buy them, but then at home they just don’t feel quite right so you never wear them and they sit in your closet unused.
And I don’t know how women wear those spiked heels these days and can even stand up in them . . . .let alone walk! I’m a flats kinda gal.
September 21, 2008 at 6:55 am
davinahaisell
Hi Lance. I know exactly what you mean! While in highschool I could hardly wait for my new runners to get all scuffed and dirty.
Hi Evelyn. Thanks for your comment! I’m glad you enjoyed the reading. Getting psyched for a change can help… cause we tend to think the worst and when the change comes it doesn’t usually measure up to what we thought it would be. It’s all relative eh?
Hi Vered. Thanks to you too for your positive feedback! Your blog sure reflects the new and the exciting. I’m always pleasantly surprised at the variety that greets me when I visit each time
Hi SpaceAgeSage. Like you, I could soooo enjoy living in a tropical environment!
Hi Robin. I’m happy to be back and connecting with my friends here. I do miss the campsite though; a big part of my heart is still there. When I was a little girl I’d run barefoot on the farm a lot and my feet were tough. Now, they are softies from living in the city. I’m glad you enjoyed this article.
Hi Linda. Hey, what size are you? Maybe we could trade?
I agree with you about those spiked heels. Although, when I was in highschool I wore them.
September 21, 2008 at 3:27 pm
Maya
I remember one winter being on Nantucket bundled up in a winter coat walking barefoot on the sandy beach…, like spaceagesage “I would love to become wealthy enough or lucky enough to live in a tropical environment…where bare feet are the norm.”
September 21, 2008 at 7:09 pm
davinahaisell
Hi Maya. The image of you bundled up in a winter coat walking barefoot on the sandy beach is refreshing. If the environment is safe and it’s kosher to do so, it is healthy for you and your feet to go barefoot… it’s like a reflexology treatment.
September 22, 2008 at 4:11 am
Leanne Magraith
Hi Davina – Welcome back.
Nicely written analogy Davina. I thought the reference to blisters was interesting.
On the weekend I wore an old pair of shoes, that I haven’t worn for a long time, expecting them to be comfortable. I ended up with a large and very sore blister on each of my big toes. This seems to be indicative of where I am in my life too. I have moved forward in my life and I am no longer comfortable with some parts of the “old me” and if I revert back it may cause some blisters/pain.
September 22, 2008 at 5:35 am
davinahaisell
Hi Leanne. Thanks!
I like your analogy too. I bet that was frustrating to have that pair of familiar oldies let you down! I imagine that as we change inside, we change the way we walk and this has an effect on how our shoes fit.
September 22, 2008 at 6:39 am
Barbara Swafford
Hi Davina – It’s great to have you back, but I’m happy to hear you had a wonderful vacation.
Sometimes it’s tough to let go of the old, and usher in new ideas, concepts or situations. Just like shoes, we can get blisters, but once we’re comfortable in our “new pair”, our life begins to feel like those old shoes again. It’s just the transition process we have to get through. Great analogy.
September 22, 2008 at 2:10 pm
Urban Panther
I prefer going barefoot as well (as long as there’s no dog poopies around). I’m not a shoe shopper. My girls got me to actually start looking for shoes, so if a pair really catches my eye, then I’ll try it on. BUT the rule is they have to fit like a glove. No blisters for me. They have to be made for my feet.
I guess, since this is really an analogy story, I am like that with change. I like change, and look for it, BUT the change has to fit like a glove. I have to know that it is absolutely the right thing for me, before I go ahead with it.
September 22, 2008 at 4:11 pm
Harmony
Davina,
So funny, I am not big for buying new shoes, and if my toes looked as good as yours do in that photo, why shoes?
But I get your point. Change is not familiar, and so it can irritate the skin, and fester up some stuff that needs release.
Change is however our nature. We are a biological change in motion – changing every second, and our ability to change biologically is what keeps us alive! What makes change threatening to me is when I assume I am not safe, but after years of wondrous stories of my safety amidst very real or perceived danger, I am embracing a safe world – and enjoying the variety of landscapes.
PS…true sandles are great…but soon we get to wear BOOTS! Go mama!
September 22, 2008 at 6:14 pm
davinahaisell
Hi Barbara. Thanks, it’s good to be back. I like what you said here, “…once we’re comfortable in our “new pair”, our life begins to feel like those old shoes again.” That was a comforting thought, thank you!
September 22, 2008 at 6:24 pm
davinahaisell
Hi Urban Panther. I hear you about those dog poopies. I’ve had the uh, ugh, experience of stepping in a cow poopie on the farm. Not one of my fondest memories. It did make me watch where I was stepping more closely after that.
Hi Harmony. Glad you like my feet. Nooooooooo! Not boots! That means clingy socks too! Nooooooo!
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September 23, 2008 at 10:04 am
Cath Lawson
Hi Davina – I was reading this post yesterday when my computer crashed. What you say is so true – making positive changes in your life is like changing your shoes for new ones. It feels uncomfortable at first but if you persevere it’s worth it.
September 23, 2008 at 6:51 pm
Patricia
Davina,
I enjoy looking for the most comfortable pair of shoes so I can just step right into life with happy feet – now if they can also be red…bliss in comfort.
I just started seeing your comments on Barbara and Vered’s Blog sites and thought they were open and fresh. I look forward to reading more of you posts.
Congratulations on the NBOTW honor. Thank you for sharing your writing.
September 23, 2008 at 7:52 pm
davinahaisell
Hi Cath. I’m glad your computer is working again. Persevering through that frustration must have been worth it
Hi Patricia. Finding the right pair of shoes can be a Cinderella story in the end
A happy ending…. ahhhh. I love red shoes!
September 24, 2008 at 6:10 pm
Natural
i got so comfortable in a pair a shoes, i didn’t realize they were torn and the sole was coming apart.
i guess that part of change i don’t like myself. once i find something that fits or works, i like to stay with it.
btw..my feet like expensive shoes like in the hundreds…i can’t afford to pay that for a pair of shoes. I usually end up getting stuff that almost fits
September 25, 2008 at 12:44 am
davinahaisell
Hi Natural. (smile) That old familiar pair of shoes sounds very familiar, as does the expensive taste.
October 4, 2008 at 3:25 am
lkleppin
I once let a rental car battery go dead and the owner of the B&B got out, in the snow to give me a push. He was barefoot! I love going without shoes, but not that far.
I do know I keep a pair of totally worn in, worn through, comfy moosehide slippers in the car to drive with. Ah! My toes thank me.
Great post! G.
October 4, 2008 at 5:11 am
davinahaisell
Lkleppin, hello! Thanks for stopping by here. Bare feet in the snow… yikes! Those slippers sound comfy. I can do slippers… they’re halfway between sandals and actual shoes that require sock wearing. Ugh.