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Introducing a New Blog: Shades Of Crimson.
After six months, I’m moving to a self-hosted blog and changing the name to Shades of Crimson.
This has been an interesting transition. I have spent two months dealing with technical difficulties. During that time WordPress released three updates. I changed the tag line a half dozen times, spent hours sourcing images and got into a rather uncomfortable discussion in an online support forum.
I’m sure my face turned a few shades of crimson. I’m not always under the influence of a “loving pulse”.
Taking the Personal out of Personal Development
It’s been said that dysfunction is an illusion designed by the inner critic, who takes things personally. It does a good job at holding a person in a place of judgment and causing them to react defensively. In my experience I’ve fallen into the trap of defining myself based on the inner critic’s direction.
We give too much credit to the inner critic. If it’s an illusion, how can it design anything? Think about that. Which makes me wonder about spirit too. In my humble opinion spirit exists, although I can’t see it any more clearly than I can see the inner critic. Both of these exist as beliefs for me because of experience, and how I have perceived that experience.
Anyway, when those nasty inner voices cloud our vision we are confused because it goes against what we are made of (whatever that is). Our natural instinct for truth and balance runs deep and the inner critic can be convincing. If a person is sensitive this can easily throw them off track. An internal struggle ensues because their perception of how things are happening doesn’t resonate with their instincts.
This year, I’m inspired to practice experience without expectation. To notice. Some days I will succeed, some days I will fail – two sides of the same coin. But, getting up in the morning to focus on experience rather than accomplishment sheds new light on things. I feel lighter starting the day this way.
Life illustrates different shades of crimson for people. Whether we are enthusiastically inspired by our experience – resonance, or feeling resistant and judgmental – dissonance.
There is only one outcome we can count on in life. What lies between now and then is experience – the ultimate accomplishment.
I continue to be inspired by the blogs I read and the comments that are shared here. Thanks for a conversational 2008. I appreciate the time each and every one of you take to read and comment because the blogosphere is certainly a busy place.
These bloggers have stepped up to share advice and offer support over the last few months and I want to thank you here and now. I’m eternally grateful to all of you.
Catherine – Cath Lawson Blog
Robin – Let’s Live Forever
Vered – MomGrind
Evelyn – Attraction Mind Map
Stacey – Create A Balance
Monika – Freelance Writing
Sara – Sara Healy
Patricia – Patricia’s Wisdom
Kathy – Virtual Impax
And I must add Barbara to this list from Blogging Without A Blog. Six months ago I learned how to add a gravatar to Loving Pulse, but for the life of me I couldn’t remember how to do it for the new blog. I did a couple of quick searches online and didn’t get the fast information I wanted. So, it was over to her blog where I had it all figured out in 5 minutes. Thanks Barbara!
Project Announcement — The Quote Effect: A Blogger’s Online Collection
What type of blogger are you? Inspirational? Sarcastic? Humourous? Professional? Let’s put our heads together and get ready for some creative fun!
Join me at Shades Of Crimson to find out more about this project. While Loving Pulse will stay put, comments are closed on this post.
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It was a beautiful day. The sun was poised in the western sky at that point right before sinking towards sunset; that brief and silent pause before changing direction.
Stepping in rhythm to the song on my mp3 player, I set the pace for another good power walk.
Five minutes later I was rudely cut off by a driver who was either in a bad mood or who simply refused to give pedestrians the right of way. I swore under my breath and scowled at him. This got me to thinking about other situations and people I’d come across that annoyed me.
I walked and wandered further, reflecting on this intrusion into my thoughts. I wandered past remembering these times to remembering how my reaction whether expressed or not, had bothered me.
I had regretted allowing myself to be caught off guard; for not “walking my talk”.
More walking. I remembered how after letting go of judgment and of what had annoyed me, I was able to see how differently the situation could have been handled.
I reminded myself that my path would most likely come across more idiots and obstacles. By expecting them I would be less likely to react.
With this, I felt less vulnerable. The power walk was back on.
I’ve always believed in the power of positive thinking. But isn’t it true that dwelling only on the positive doesn’t necessarily mean your life will always be rosy? Life happens and we never know why some experiences come across our paths. Some things can’t be controlled, but attitude certainly can be.
Wearing rose-coloured glasses doesn’t help anyone. Through meditation, I’ve focused on the positive and tried to ignore the negative. But the fact remains that it is there in many different forms and you can’t walk away from it.
When you simply notice negativity, in yourself and in others, you are not inviting it in. By noticing it and not judging it, you put yourself in the position to shift its path and let it go.
Noticing doesn’t mean you have to accept or put up with the situation. But, it can give you a moment to make up your mind how and if you will handle it.
Noticing keeps you flexible. It gives life a chance to flow as it needs to.
It takes practice though. But don’t worry…
There will be traffic delays.
You may be put on hold for too many minutes.
Sometimes you’ll wait in long lines.
People make mistakes.
You might miss the bus.
Just a few examples.
Is there a particular situation where you remember not having responded the way you would have liked to?
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Photo Credit: Prony
And, hi to all you regular readers. I have appreciated your comments and support over the past few months.
A big thanks to Barbara at Blogging Without A Blog for choosing Loving Pulse as New Blog of the Week (NBOTW). I am, as the title of this post suggests, “Over The Moon”.
When I started posting in June, Barbara was the first to leave a comment and she has continued to visit and comment since then.
I had no idea how much time was involved when I first started this practice but thankfully, I have learned a lot from Blogging Without A Blog. Barbara shares helpful tips and information to make blogging easier for all of us. If you are a new blogger, spend some time reading through her archives.
I have connected with a huge number of other bloggers who read and comment on Barbara’s blog, and learned from many of them too.
At Loving Pulse I write about what moves me. Like the moon, we all have a dark side and a sunny side. I explore this through my own experience with the hopes of inspiring readers to do the same for themselves.
My most recent article entitled Stepping Out Of These Old Shoes is about facing, or not facing changes in life.
My upcoming article to be posted this Friday is entitled Free Spirit My Ass!
Feel free to visit my Favourite Posts page where I have showcased some of my favourites.
I will sign off now with a quote from Les Brown.
“Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars.”
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Photo Credit: Davina Haisell